O is for Obstacles

I often talk to my clients about obstacles.  The barriers that get in the way of living a fulfilling life.  All of us have them.  Even the Dalai Lama.  Although he seems to manage his so much better than the rest of us.

When we pull out the magnifying glass in session, the types of barriers that often appear, include:

·         Fear

·         Unhelpful thoughts

·         Worries – especially ‘what ifs?’

·         Low self confidence and self esteem

·         Lack of acceptance of the things outside of our control

·         Lack of motivation

·         Health issues – mainly weight

The types of lifestyle choices that appear to be most impeded upon include:

·         Having a functioning social life

·         Quality relationships

·         Fitness

·         Fun

·         Pleasure

·         Adventure

·         Acceptance

·         Inner peace

Most people look at me strangely when I tell them we have a choice.  We sometimes choose to soothe the obstacles through avoidance and denial.  Such choices lead us away from our desired lifestyle.

If we choose to take our obstacles along for the ride though, making choices that take us in the direction of our improved quality of life, we would usually find the discomfort would only be temporary.

And then we would all live happily ever after.